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Solo Girls Masturbation

Sure, partnered sex is great! But certified sex coach Gigi Engle, Womanizer sexpert, and author of “All The F*cking Mistakes: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life,” has some news for you: “Your solo sessions are as, if not more, important as partnered sessions.”

“Lean into that,” she suggests. These tips can help.

What counts?

Just as partnered sex is way more expansive than penis-in-vagina, solo sex is way more expansive than just rubbing your nub, nips, ribs, or rod, says sex educator Sarah Sloane, who’s been coaching sex toy classes at Good Vibrations and Pleasure Chest since 2001.

Any activity that connects you to your romantic, sensual, erotic, or sexual self counts.

What’s the point?

For starters, “it’s a wonderful way to connect to your body, become more confident in your body, and experience pleasure,” says Engle.

Masturbating is also pain-relieving, stress-relieving, mood-boosting, and sleep-promoting. (And is especially beneficial for menstruating humans).

That said, Sloane makes a good point: “Pleasure is valid for pleasure’s sake — health benefits or not.”

Get in the mood to get it on

“Seduce yourself,” suggests Engle. This will look different for everyone, but if you need ideas, she suggests trying the following:

Turn down the lights and light candles.

Massage cream or oil into your limbs.

Make and play a sex playlist.

Take deep breaths.

Put your phone in off-mode.

Explore with toys and props 

Oh, sex toys! Sweet, sweet pleasure-making sex toys!

Bring in a buzzy buddy

“Vibrators just move differently than fingers can,” says Sloane. “Some folks need the speed to get off, others simply enjoy it.”

There are endless types of vibrators, from those that are just meant for your external bits (like wand vibrators, clit vibrators, finger vibrators, and vibrating cock rings), to those that are meant to go inside your body (like vibrating prostate massagers, vibrating butt plugs, and G-spot vibrators).

This guide can help you choose the vibrator for you. And so can chatting with the sex educators at your local sex-positive sex shop.

“For folks with bigger bodies, I recommend long-handled toys like wand vibrators and thrusting vibrators, which make it easier to reach your genitals,” says body-positive sex educator Carly S. with The Pleasure Chest.

Egg on a stick vibrators, G-spot vibrators, and double-ended dildos are a good option, too, she says.

Try a non-vibrating toy, too

There’s a misconception that sex toys begin and end with vibrators. They don’t.

“Stainless steel and glass wands are pleasurable ways to apply to erogenous zones like the G-spot and P-spot, as well as a great way to play around with temperature,” says Carly S., who calls out that the Njoy Pure Wandand Njoy Eleven are cult-classics.

For your rear, there’s non-vibrating butt plugs, prostate toys, and anal beads.

Use a remote control toy

“For folks with limited range of motion and mobility issues, remote or app controlled vibrators let you get the sex toy in place, and then control the intensity and vibration from the app,” says Sloane.

She recommends the We-Vibe Moxie as a great panty vibrator for folks with vulvas and the b-vibe Rimming plug for anyone who enjoys bum play.

Pull in a sex pillow

Carly S. has one rule for solo sex: “Work smarter, not harder.”

Her go-to way to do that, besides vibrators? A sex pillow (like Dame Pillo) or wedge (like the Liberator Wedge).

“They can help you get comfortable to orgasm and to make reaching your bits easier.”

Lube up

This is especially important if there’s gonna be butt play.

Try different strokes 

Don’t be a one trick pony: Experiment with new stroking patterns.

If you have a clit, try:

Moving your fingers counterclockwise and clockwise.

Stroking diagonally left to right, then right to left.

Layering your labia over your clitoris to buffer the sensation.

Tapping your clit.

Applying pressure to your mons pubis.

If you have a penis, try:

Tornado-like twisting strokes.

Tapping the head with one hand, moving up and down the shaft with the other.

Double-fisting your rod.

Getting a firm hold and twisting back and forth.

Yanking up with fast strokes, sliding back down more slowly.

“Once you find something that feels good, stick with it,” says Engle. “Consistency can take you right into an orgasm.”

Go south

No, not to Florida. To your butt.

The anus has half the nerves in the pelvic floor, according to Sloane. “Filling the canal can create a pleasurable sensation of fullness,” she says.

Here’s how: Grab lube, then use a butt plug, anal beads, or your finger to tease the nerve-dense ring of your bum. Once you’re thoroughly turned on and lubed up, press them into your anal canal and enjoy the sensation

Go to the kitchen

Between the coconut oil, Crisco, and ice cubes, the kitchen is a treasure trove of sex enhancers. Next time your roomie is gone, prop one leg up on the counter and have at it.